- Your best friend lets you know he’s angry with you for never having time for him.
- Your wife has asked if she can schedule some time to see you.
- You cancel your discipleship meeting with your mentor for the 4th consecutive week.
- You check to see when you have an available date to hang out with your brother, and there isn’t one…at all.
- You hope you have enough time in the day to get done what you should have done a month ago.
- You have a great idea for something else to do, and you burst into tears.
- You see a trailer for a movie you want to see and all you can do is laugh because you know there wont be enough time to get to see one.
- Your boss asks you why you haven’t completed a task that was assigned to you, and you cant form a sentence because of ALL the reasons that you haven’t had time to do it.
- When you’re asked what you want to do for your birthday and you literally mean, “Nothing.”
10. You write your first blog post in weeks while on hold…
Only one of these is not true for me. I have to find a better way to manage my time. Any ideas?
While preparing music for a Valentine’s banquet this weekend, I came across a song that I like that poses an interesting statement. Within the text of this song, the author makes the assertion that, “All you need is love.” But for so many, relationships after relationships have failed them, and the thought of Love having some kind of saving power is simply observed. For others, the Valentine holiday will not change the fact that in the next few days, weeks, or months, they will file for divorce, because this, like many other relationships they have started, was missing something critical for it’s survival.
So for some, the idea of Love provokes anger, resentment, and depression.
So, we must ask the question, what is the most valuable element in a successful relationship? I continue to think, in spite of the recent wave of divorce in the U.S. among individuals under the age of 25, that Love is the single element that can keep a marriage together.
You might be asking, “But what do I do when the love fades?”
Start loving again!
According to 1 Corinthians 13, the definition of love differs from that of our common vernacular. In fact, love is not defined as an emotion at all, but more of a state of being, in which, we act on behalf of the person(s) we love in a covenantal way. That is a long way to say that, Love is not an Emotion, it’s an action.
-Does Not Keep Record of Wrongs
-Does Not Rejoice When Others are Wronged
-Rejoices in Truth
-Bears All Things
-Believes All Things
-Hopes All Things
-Endures All Things
-Love Never Ends (Nor does it fade)
And lest we forget, these kinds of actions are covenantal, not contractual. I don’t tell my wife, “I’ll be all these things so long as you are these things to me.” No, I say, “I will go to my grave trying to live these things for you, and only you!”
So, Yea, I think the thing that has been missing from many relationships is Love. Not infatuation, but real love. Nobody ever wrote the song, “All You Need is Infatuation!” If you look at this list of attributes, and notice that one is missing from your life, start living it.
I learned something very important about goal setting the other day, when I had to ask myself, “What’s the point of setting goals for myself that are always too high?” I even had to ask, “Do I set goals out of reach, in an effort to solidify my lack of faith in my own ability to achieve success?”
Interestingly enough, I don’t think I consciously set goals too high, but I have noticed that my goals have been more than lofty; they have been unattainable.
For example, I told myself that I wanted to sell 100 books in the month of February. I wonder if my goal of 100 books was a way to prove to myself that I couldn’t do it. I wonder if I used this opportunity to ramp-up my focus on books sales as a knife to hamstring any future ambition for success.
Though that seems high, I told myself, that because I already had 3 book events scheduled for the month, I’d have no problem attaining that goal. However, I didn’t take into account that I have no way to track (in real time) online book sales. Therefore, I wont know if I have achieved my goal until May. Also, if I try to sell all 100 books personally, I have to sell 33.333 books per event.
And who’s going to buy 1/3 of a book???
So I took some good advice and I shortened my goal to 30 books in person, and an additional 20 online in spite of the fact that I will not know the online count until the summer. Now I need to average 10 books per event. But, I have already completed one event, were I sold 3 books…that’s right…3. So I now have a goal of 27 books in two events…(seems like I have fractions in my future again…)
Nevertheless, this is an attainable goal. My youth minister told me a long time ago, that my goals need to be:
I am excited about celebrating this win (Party invites will be in your mail boxes some time after July 4th)
Success is about success, not blind ambition.
All alliteration aside, I have been focusing myself on being fully invested in every moment in my day. I have tried to do this in a couple of different ways. First, I have attempted to plan my time on any given project, in an effort to fully invest myself, while maintaining short, attainable goals. For instance:
Pray over Sunday Service: 15 minutes
Gather Song Possibilities: 30 minutes
Formulate Order and Keys: 25 minutes
Play Through Selections to insure fit: 20 minutes
This is only one example of time management, but it doesn’t address the underlying theme of making the most of my moments. That being said, I have attempted to add a human component to my day, that otherwise has never been there. I have attempted to allow the people to which I come in contact, the opportunity to speak twice as much as I speak, as well as, making sure that I take a moment or two to consider their statement before I reply. My hope is that I will become a better listener, and engage people more effectively.
Pray for me as I try to keep this going. I love to plan and I love people, but doing this is exhausting. I only hope that after a while, I will become more natural at this process.
What do you do about today? It’s interesting that we nearly always talk about tomorrow, but rarely do we take today seriously enough to make it valuable. If I take today seriously, what will be the outcome?
More importantly, the question is not about today, it is really about Right Now. What am I going to do right now to make a difference. Before I make right now matter, I must have a goal that has real value. I must first know what it is I want, as well as, what it is that I am capable of doing.
But how do we answer these questions?
I must start answering these questions. Sit down and answer them…it’s that simple.